Carl Jung once said, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
I believe he is right. Becoming more of ourselves truly is a privilege, and one I take rather seriously.
At college I studied Speech Communication and Public Relations. After graduating, I moved to New York City to become a television producer. I’ve always played in traffic at the intersection of truth and communication, so making documentaries seemed like a perfect career for me.
But life had other plans.
On June 12, 2001 my dear friend Shannon McNamara was murdered near the campus of Eastern Illinois University, where we both had been students and sorority sisters. Three months after Shannon was killed, 9/11 happened. At the time I was commuting to the World Trade Center every day. I couldn’t escape the evil, the killing or the feeling of being constantly unsafe.
I felt compelled to do something.
So I got trained and certified in several personal safety and self-defense programs and started speaking and teaching about violence prevention, but in a comedic way. Live on stage, night after night, I shared Shannon’s story, as well as education on living an empowered life. My team and I spoke to over ONE MILLION PEOPLE at live GFB events across the world. We made ’em laugh, and made ’em cry. We helped turn on a light in their eyes, as they awoke to the belief that not only could they fight back…but they were WORTH DEFENDING.
During this time I also wrote a book, a magazine column for CosmoGirl, and appeared in countless media interviews talking about living safe and strong. It was amazing, exhilarating, exhausting…and utterly worth it, because Shannon’s legacy lived on through these young women.
After eleven years of this full-throttle crusade for women’s safety, in 2012 I gave birth to my baby daughter…ON SHANNON’S BIRTHDAY. Seriously…what are the chances?!? I felt it was a sign from Shannon, smiling down on me, saying it was ok to move on. I had crossed the bridge from pain to peace. It was time to let go, give GFB wings and watch it fly.
Shortly thereafter, I sold GFB to my talent agency in Los Angeles. I’m still an advisor today, and feel so proud of all they continue to accomplish.
Around that time, I was pondering my next career move. I volunteered with TEDx to help speakers discover and communicate their authentic message. Some of my clients went viral. One of them is Ash Beckham, one of the Top 10 Most Viewed TEDx talks of all time.
These clients started sharing my name with their friends and on social media my unique process for helping them get epic clarity. Alas, my new career was born.
While I have lots of education and experience in public speaking, I don’t consider myself a speaking coach. I DO help people speak their truth…which is a very different skill than public speaking. But before you can speak truth, first you need to know what it is. My process for unearthing truth is called The Dig.
I have facilitated The Dig for hundreds of individuals, partners and groups…and even on companies like Google, who want to go deeper into their purpose. People who’ve benefited from The Dig include students, parents, entrepreneurs, executives, people in transition, young folks and old people at the end of life…and pretty much anyone in between. The Dig is appropriate for any seeker of purpose, and anyone wanting better clarity about their path in this life. For people with a message to share, The Dig is a game changer for getting the baseline clarity necessary to be an effective communicator.
Many of my clients have said at the end of their experience, “Everyone needs The Dig.”
In 2017, I spoke at TEDxBoulder about the difference between transparency and authenticity. During this talk I share the importance of speaking from the head, the heart and the core if we want to fully express ourselves. Little did I know it while standing on that stage, but a significant shift in my life would happen just days afterwards. Click here to watch it and read the back story. (warning: it’s a bit crazy and intense)
I dream of a world where we all have EPIC CLARITY of who we are, and can effectively communicate this to others. This allows us to be seen, to be heard, to be witnessed. If you’re ready to create a shift, you’ll need to show up as your truest self. Doing so builds trust. People must soften before they can open. And they must open before they can change.
But it all starts with The Dig. If you’re intrigued, grab a shovel and let’s get dirty.